Out of the school cycle, this can be a great time to assess where you are and where you would like to be. Just like planting bulbs now so they can bloom in the spring, you can create a plan of action to put into play over the winter. Where are your areas of interest and/or improvement? Take some time to sketch out how you would like those areas to look come springtime.

Parents: How empty is your nest?

It doesn’t matter if you have little ones starting the first year of full-time school or older ones going off college, there will be a shift in your demands, time, and even self image.

Moms and dads are impacted by a child moving on. How closely your own sense of being and identity are tied to your children and their activities can be one of the many influences on how you may handle the transition. It can be especially challenging when part of you says, “I know this is part of being a parent and I am so very proud/happy,” while another part says, “What do I do with myself now?”

This is a great time to pull out that old unfinished to-do list. If you never had one- set aside time to make a new one. See what shows up and then explore the ways to make it happen. If you are partnered, you can brainstorm things to do together without the kids. If your feelings seem bigger than finding new ways to enjoy your time, there are options for working with someone as you enter this new phase in your life.

Take some time to plant bulbs for yourself, not just the garden. Winter doesn’t have to exist only for shoveling snow and wishing for spring. A little planning now can lead to something lovely in the next season, and the next and the next.

David Allen is a certified Breathwork practitioner in Baltimore. He facilitates breath experiences for individuals, groups, and couples. BreathWorkWorks.com. Have a topic you’d like covered? Write to This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. .